Last year on this day I had another life-changing experience and I am still struggling with the ramifications of another's betrayal, still working to trust. I don’t know if I will come out of this experience intact as a person whole. How does one place this puzzle back together? How do you move forward if you aren’t even certain that moving forward is what you want and what should happen or rather you know that it is certainly what should happen but it is just that I am confused? How does one even decide to contemplate making a choice when you have left with no choice? Was I allowed choice? Instead, I’m stalled out like a car on the side of the freeway, just sitting on the exit ramp, holding a discourse alone in my head. The outcome of the conversation in my head was that I don’t believe that the decisions we make are always wrong vs right. They just are. We make them and it’s not necessarily always better, just different. It is what it is and you pull yourself up and keep on going. Decisions don't always put life into perspective or improve our lives, they just frame life a bit differently than before; as always, though, life keeps moving and we do our best to keep up. It just was. Am I happier now that ex-Beloved and I broke up? I'm happy that a decision was finally made (he did what he felt he had to do), but it seems that every time we talk, whether it's online or in person, he needs to justify his decision to end our relationship. He keeps saying, "I know I made the right decision" and “ this was inevitable” and “ there were no promises of love and commitment". Then what was it? I cant make my decisions anymore. I am decision less.
Are you an Opeth fan ? I know this is couple years earlier...but read your post and felt connected. Hope you're better now.
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